Inside Relationships
An informative journey into the secrets of personal relationships guided by Accredited Mental Health Social Worker David of Milan Coaching and his partner of 25 years Debra. Each week David and Debra are joined by a special guest from a many different backgrounds ranging from Doctors to Hypnotherapists, to discuss and offer insight into a great variety of interesting relationship topics such as boundaries, commitment, honesty, fidelity, mental health, family, communication, values, narcissism, trauma, longevity, safety, beginning relationships & even how & when to finish a relationship.
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In this Episode, hosts David and Debra take a little time to introduce themselves and briefly talk about some of the challenges faced while being married 25 years.
With a special guest Cassie, the theme of this episode revolves around beginning and maintaining a relationship; fast-moving relationships, sticking at it, the death of first love (and holding a candle). Cassie discusses navigating Social media within your relationship and the constant comparisons and the struggle to feel secure in relationship.
We also touch on finding relationships face-to-face vs social media, online judging and how dating has changed; monogamy and the legacy of one night stands. Cassie talks briefly about growing-up with social media and questions ‘to post?’ or ‘not to post’? (are some things too important to post?).
The episode rounds-off with a discussion around five communication keys for a healthy relationship;
- Be sensitive,
- Be honest (and understand what honesty means to your partner),
- Create safety,
- See and acknowledge your partner’s perspective and
- Understand that all your words have meaning to your partner (even if you don’t mean it).
David simplifies boundaries with the 4 golden rules of boundary setting. Discussion ensues around what is the difference between boundaries and limits? How important is it to know your partner’s boundaries? The team also discusses verbal boundaries vs non-verbal boundaries, sticking to what you say, silence as a boundary and how clear boundaries help support long-term relationships.
David and Debra talk with special guest Andre about the extremes of trust required in a BDSM lifestyle.
The team break-down the concept of trust and discuss what comprises trust; including the importance of checking for ongoing consent.
Is there such a thing as complete trust?
What happens when trust is broken and where is the line for this?
How important are limits and boundaries when it comes to trust?
How important is communication for trust?
Can emotion be an obstacle for trust?
Andre gives examples based on his experience of Polyamorous relationships and Andre shares his trust checklist.