Inside Relationships
An informative journey into the secrets of personal relationships guided by Accredited Mental Health Social Worker David of Milan Coaching and his partner of 25 years Debra. Each week David and Debra are joined by a special guest from a many different backgrounds ranging from Doctors to Hypnotherapists, to discuss and offer insight into a great variety of interesting relationship topics such as boundaries, commitment, honesty, fidelity, mental health, family, communication, values, narcissism, trauma, longevity, safety, beginning relationships & even how & when to finish a relationship.
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In this Episode, hosts David and Debra take a little time to introduce themselves and briefly talk about some of the challenges faced while being married 25 years.
With a special guest Cassie, the theme of this episode revolves around beginning and maintaining a relationship; fast-moving relationships, sticking at it, the death of first love (and holding a candle). Cassie discusses navigating Social media within your relationship and the constant comparisons and the struggle to feel secure in relationship.
We also touch on finding relationships face-to-face vs social media, online judging and how dating has changed; monogamy and the legacy of one night stands. Cassie talks briefly about growing-up with social media and questions ‘to post?’ or ‘not to post’? (are some things too important to post?).
The episode rounds-off with a discussion around five communication keys for a healthy relationship;
- Be sensitive,
- Be honest (and understand what honesty means to your partner),
- Create safety,
- See and acknowledge your partner’s perspective and
- Understand that all your words have meaning to your partner (even if you don’t mean it).
This episode is all about relationships that people get into but want to exit really quickly.
Katey has approximately 17 years working with relationships and social groups, often where there is a lot of awkwardness, stress and anxiety.
David asks how do you know when someone is not right for you?Katey discusses the body reactions when meeting a person and how this can indicate that the person is not right for you.
Katey also gives suggestions around how to break-off an interaction when you suspect that the person is not right for you, particularly in what she labels narcissistic behaviour.
Katey talks about setting boundaries within relationships and how to compromise yet speak your truth.
David emphasises that how people say things to you is important in relationships and taking the time to explore each others personalities helps you get to know a person much better.
The team is joined by Bodo Frost to discuss 'how far is too far?', self-defeating behaviour and the power of role modelling.
The question arises, do we condone violence and apologise about it afterwards? How powerful can words be compared with physical behaviour?
Once trauma triggers are recognised, what can be done to manage? Bodo gives an explanation of self-defeating behaviours including his five steps to managing self defeating behaviour. The team discusses barriers to identifying and talking about our feelings. How hard is it to express feelings? How important is dialogue in relationships to express feelings?